The Unanswered Question

The Unanswered Question

Hmmm

I'm sure you are wondering what this question (❓) is,

Most of my write ups come from my observations from  teenagers or the questions we teenagers tend to ask.

And this particular question

"WHAT IS LOVE ❓"

Has always been the most asked and the most misunderstood.

Okay 😏 let's give it a shot

I would start with these questions and in turn answering them accordingly.

1, what is love?_.

2, Is there a right time for love?

3, What do you actually gain when you date?

4, Can you actually date at this age without drifting from God?

5, Is your so called 'love' similar to Jesus's love for you?

    "Love"

Before I wrote on this,  I asked quite a number of people to share with me what they understood by LOVE........ And these are some of the replies I got...... 

One..... 

"Love is beyond human explanation or scientific proof though, I think Love is the strong feeling which makes you sacrifice for another person even when you are not at your best, just to see your partner happy. Love makes you trust in another person even when you thought you could not and it makes you to value someone even when he/she flaws"

Reply two_

"Love is a feeling,I don't believe in love actually" and so on

 One thing I noticed is that almost all the replies I got,  had a word in common "feeling" I believe its wrong, love can't be a feeling , you can feel anger , pain, guilt ,timid etc but one unique thing about feelings is that they are short lived and come for the moment. They don't last long, just momentarily like a blink and then boom...... They are gone. So you can't say love is a feeling. To me love is God, love is that inner bond with a thing ,person, being ,activity etc that you can no longer do without it__Charlytuks

So that's why we know God loves us , our parents love us , our siblings love us and vise versa, you can love sports. When you love you can do anything for it, that's why Jesus could die for us on the cross  , when you love,  nothing done by the person will be taken to heart. It is even much more easier to forgive, that's why God forgives our sins and that's  why our parents can't kill us no matter what we do.

Is there a right time to love??.

     YES,  of course there is a right time to love and logically,  if the answer is yes then it  means there's a 'no' to this same question.... Meaning, there is a wrong time to love.

But this only applies to the so called 'feelings' not the parental or Godly love(And as we all know  that  this love is unconditional and forever) 

  So now why do I say so. Songs of Solomon 2;7, or 8;4.

 __I charge you, O ye_ _daughters of Jerusalem, by the roes, and by the hinds_ _of the field, that ye stir not up, nor awake my love, till he please._ 

 .

Now love is not something teenagers should begin to experiment now because its not a child's play. When at this age you start to think you love someone,  you become too occupied with this person , you think about this person every time and you become very distracted, forgetting  most of your priorities. Even if you  succeed (with the person you love in the picture),  you could have done better when totally focused. 

You should just let love be till you're  mentally, spiritually ,physically and emotionally ready for it, and if I will suggest I think that would be when your ready to have a life long partner.

Can you actually date at this age without drifting from God

     I would say on the rating of 100%,  it would be 95% chance that you would drift from God. 

Why? 

Now when you're dating , and you two claim to love each other , you have a high tendency to commit sin.

How?

You would obviously be tempted to engage in different immoral acts. Like kissing, making out etc.

 The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery;

 Galatians 5:19 NIV

1 Thessalonians 5:22

King James Version

 "Abstain from all appearance of evil"

So the thing is you might not have a wrong motive when you start, but it's just like putting your hand in boiling water knowing with time it will get hot. So avoid any opportunity for the devil to tempt you.

  So you see when u do these things you drift away from God. 

Now why these things happen is because unlike God's love , I believe love is meant to be fed if not it dies out. Love is fed and kept alive through honeymoons, constant outings ,sex ,children ,living together etc. Now these things , you're not ready to perform or provide most of them. You are still young, so dating now should not be a priority since its just a simple distraction from your main goal.

I know what's in your mind now is , what if you decide to keep it clean that you are just dating because maybe you gain intellectually , financially , morally etc. Well when people tell me this I laugh. When you have listed all this things then there is no actual use of dating, there is something called friendship. After all you gain from your friends the same thing u just listed, what's the luxury in calling yourself boyfriend and girlfriend and end up regretting cause 98% of relationships that start now at this age won't end up in marriage and won't  last. Another reason I have heard is that as a person you think you need someone to care and feel up an empty space in you. Please the reality about this is,  it's God you actually need to fill up the space or void. 

A wise man once told me.... 

NEVER START WHAT YOU CAN'T FINISH!!!

Is your love similar to Jesus's love for you?

   Now this part is the love for your neighbours and family. Now first we look at the characteristics of Christ's love.

1,The Lord forgives you no matter what you do can you forgive ?

2, The lord clothes us ,protects us and cares about our needs can you do that?

 They're a lot , just ask yourself every single time before you take any action....... how would Christ react?!?!?   And do I really treat people around me ,my loved ones with Godly love?....... 

The truth is that its hard yes its hard but you can do it. 

by his grace you can.

Everyone around you is doing it does not make it right.

Thank you for reading to this extent. I pray the lord will grant you indebt understanding and make u strive to heed to what u have read. 

AMEN

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